It is sometimes amazing to me the paths we cross with one another. It is an incredible thing to see how people grow and shape themselves with every bend and twist along the way. The individuals that come in and out of our lives help shape and mold us to become a better person. Even when we encounter the toxic ones.

The toxic people show us what we don’t need and enlighten us to be more conscious of whom we open our souls to. Every person we encounter, no matter how briefly, can teach a life lesson. It is up to us to appreciate those lessons and utilize them.

When I was younger, I was so regretful and spiteful for certain choices and “mistakes” that I experienced. In one instance, I remember a friend (at the time) accusing me of double-crossing her. Something to the effect of me going behind her back and talking to her mortal enemy. Yes, that was it. All I did was talk to another person and I was the biggest Benedict Arnold on the planet. We are so overly dramatic sometimes when we aren’t looking at the big picture. That turned in to me telling said mortal enemy all the friend’s secrets and then snowballed into me ruining her life. Ever heard of the game telephone? Yeah, none of what she thought I had said really happened. She ended our friendship.

I didn’t see it for the longest time, but that was the best thing she could have done for me. For years, I asked myself what I could have done differently. What things would be like if we were still friends. I looked at the whole scenario as an end result of something that was taken from me. Something that I was missing. When in fact, she gave me a gift. A few gifts actually; the rationale to see her for who she truly was, the knowledge of understanding how unneeded and unnecessary the drama was, and the perspective of how ridiculous it is that I had to chose between two people to talk and be friends with.

It molded me. Changed me. Made me part of who I am today and for that I am grateful and embrace it.

It isn’t so easy to always embrace those instances in life, but when you do and try and find that positive side, it’s so(ul) rewarding.


Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.

-Mahatma Gandhi

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